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Am I A Sex Addict?

The good folks over at Covenant Eyes want to help you answer your most secret question: Am I a sex addict?

We at CtC encourage you to take a look at this article if youve ever, even furtively, wondered about your sexual behavior. It is worth the 5-10 minutes of personal reflection. We also encourage you to compassionately share this with anyone you know who may be struggling with sexual addiction – but carefully. Maybe it would be best for you to have a more informal conversation about this before you drop the bomb of “I think you are addicted to sex” on them.

Finally, NOTE this: overcoming sinful behavior, expecially addiction, is difficult (as the article notes.) But it is much, much easier through Jesus. He has already suffered the consequences of our foolishness on the cross. He has already overcome the punishment we caused him to bear through his resurrection. He is investing in you, with his body and blood, his time and attention, his Spirit and his love, so that you can know you are not alone in this fight.

In fact, when you overcome your sexual addiction, you will be able to point to Jesus as the one who made it possible. Are you a sex addict? Perhaps. Are you a conqueror? Absolutely.

Read Am I A Sex Addict at Covenant Eyes

Rainbow Savior

Rainbow Savior

Rainbow Savior (RS), by Rev. Monday, is an extremely helpful book for the Christian community and the homosexual. A Christian can use this as a reliable guide through the minefields of the homosexual debate. RS addresses the struggling homosexual in Part I with a call to return back to Christ, the loving and forgiving God. Part II speaks to the Christian congregation as they face the issues surrounding homosexuality.

Getting Out of The Cycle of Sin

Encouragement partner guide

The Conquerors through Christ team is pleased to offer a guide to help both people caught (or formerly caught) in the sin of pornography use AND the people in their lives who want to help them.  If you are at all familiar with strategies for fighting addictions, you have heard the term “Accountability Partner.”  While providing accountability is a worthwhile and necessary effort, we are convinced that providing gospel motivation with the accountability is better suited to meaningful lasting change and spiritual growth.  The guide examines biblical and practical elements of this vital effort and will equip both the user/former user and the encouragement partner with helpful ideas for a blessed partnership.

Encouragement partner guide

The 5 Steps

Utah vs. Porn

Pornography is legal here in the United States, and it will very likely remain so. Even if it were made illegal (like Utah hasn’t exactly done but is trying to do –http://foxnews.com.hk/utah-outlaws-pornography-fines-30-days-jail-offenders/ – or kind of trying to do) the illegality of certain images would likely inspire a prohibition-style underground while failing to actually curb all images that can cause a person to lust.

So, it’s legal. Mostly.

For clarity’s sake, not all pornography is legal. The First Amendment defines two categories of pornography as out-of-bounds: “obscenity” and child pornography. While child pornography is relatively easy to define, that which falls into the category of “obscenity” is quite a bit harder to nail down. The goal of the obscenity limitation is to help avoid extremes, but anyone with even a cursory knowledge of the kinds of pornography on the internet realize that’s a pretty tall order that’s barely being filled.

(Keep in mind, we’re talking about pornography on a civic, societal, or governmental level. For a Christian, the question isn’t really “What can I get away with under the law?” but rather “What is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable? I want to think about these kinds of things.”)

So, it’s legal and not nearly as regulated as it could be.

What are we to do? The oddness of the Utah resolution gives us a pretty good chance to think about the best response. State Senator Todd Weiler’s resolution, proposed this past January and signed by the governor on July 7th (2016), actually includes fines and potential jail time for anyone who owns porn magazines or is caught watching pornography of any kind. This is odd because, as we’ve established, the First Amendment literally protects some of the things this resolution prohibits (one can only expect that this won’t be the end of this story.)

Nevertheless, let’s imagine that the story didn’t continue with legal challenges, but rather with adherence. What if not only Utah, but also the other 49 states outlawed porn, increased education on the dangers or porn, and found efficient ways to actually enforce this policy? Would it work?

In some ways, maybe. If you’re a pragmatist at heart, you can see how this would make life a little easier. It would make it harder for young boys to hide magazines because the magazines wouldn’t be published. It would be harder for 8-11 year old kids to have their first exposure to pornography because it wouldn’t be so freely available.

But it wouldn’t solve the real problem. Porn addiction is a broken behavior that comes from a broken desire – lust – that comes from a broken relationship with God. The problem of porn is the problem of sin, and the solution to sin isn’t the law – whether God’s law or the government’s law. The law can help on the surface level, but it can’t really lead to a solution. Making porn illegal doesn’t make it so people don’t want porn. Threatening jail time for porn use doesn’t make it so people don’t want porn – they just don’t want to go to jail.

If we want to affect motivation, to transform people’s desire from being focused on base, sexual wants to being focused on more glorious ideals, the only solution is the message of Jesus’ unconditional love. Gospel-driven motivation is the only motivation that has a place in a transformed life. Grace-driven motivation is the only motivation that can take a person who is running toward hell and turn them around so they pursue God. The law, at best, can only slow them down – it can’t turn them around.

So, kudos be to Utah, for the moment.
Praise, honor, glory, and strength be to Christ, forever.

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Breaking The Cycle

Breaking The Cycle

Breaking the Cycle by George Collins brings an interesting and perhaps unorthodox look into recovery from sexual addiction. By “unorthodox” I am specifically meaning that as a Christian Psychologist from a WELS Lutheran background I am particularly trained to filter resources from a confessional Lutheran worldview and at first glance this book does not fit the bill.

Is your church ready to help people who struggle with porn?

Connect with CtC with our Bible Study

Use the CtC bible study, “Bought at a Price,” at your church. Download leader’s guide and participant handbook from our downloads page

Is your church ready to help people who struggle with porn?

Connect to CtC with our Monthly Newsletter & Bulletin

Text CTC to 42828 to sign up for our monthly newsletter & bulletin. Everyone struggles or knows someone struggling with sexual temptation, and as a church we would love it if you were all equipped with the ability to support each other and remember who you are In Christ. You will get relevant articles, tips, and news about what we’re up to, among other things. You can also sign up by going to our Facebook page and clicking “Join My List” at the top, or go to our archives and click sign up now.

Put on the Full Armor of God

Put on the Full Armor of God

Having a battle plan to fight temptation is crucial for victory.

Our page on Your Plan has a great video and some helpful tips on how you can be ready.

God's Grace to Sexual Sinners

God’s Grace To Sexual Sinners

“I’ve messed up too badly.”
“There’s no hope for me now.”
“I can’t fix this.”

Sometimes it can seem like there’s no way things could ever turn around. Do you ever feel like that? We’ve got good news: God has a rich history of using people just like you to do amazing things!

Check out these stories of God’s grace to sexual sinners: