Secular Definitions

You may be wondering how a therapist or a counselor might diagnose the degree or level of your pornography use. The following two cases might be helpful. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American
Psychiatric Association IV (DSM IV) lists two general categories for the improper use of a substance. They are:

A more secular definition – Abuse – adapted from DSM-IV

  • The use of the substance (here – pornography) occurs in a pattern within the last 12 months that has produced measurable and significant impairment or distress. This impairment or distress would be seen by one or more of the following four areas:
  • Recurrent pornography use resulting in a failure to fulfill major role obligations at work, school, or home
  • Recurrent pornography use in situations in which it is physically hazardous
  • Recurrent pornography-related legal problems
  • Continued pornography use despite having persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused or exacerbated by the use of pornography
    The symptoms have never met the criteria for substance dependence for this class of substance

Example: John is a 30-year-old single who has been using pornography since age 10. He has used pornography in the last 12 month period. He has tried to stop using porn three times in his life and has always gone back to it. He is ashamed of his pornography use and feels that if anyone really knew him, they would not love him. This has led problems in relationships with women and with his parents.

A more secular definition – Dependence – adapted from DSM-IV

The use of the substance (pornography) in a 12-month period leads to a pattern that has produced measurable and significant impairment or distress, as shown by three or more of the following occurring in the same 12-month period:

  • Tolerance – It takes more porn to get the same results
  • Withdrawal – symptoms of distress occur when porn is not used for awhile
  • Pornography is often used in larger amounts over a longer period of time than was intended. (Planned to limit the use, but could not.)
  • A persistent, but unsuccessful effort to cut down the use
  • A great deal of time is spent to obtain pornography or to recover from its affects.
  • Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of the pornography use
  • The pornography use is continued despite knowledge of its negative impact on physical or mental health

Example: Peter is a 32 year old male who has been using pornography since age 16. He says that he has tried to stop four times over the years and he has failed each time. When he is not using pornography he is nervous and anxious. He describes himself needing more and more graphic images to reach the pleasurable release that he wants and feels he needs. He says that often he will start off using porn and saying to himself that he will only be on it for 15 minutes. He finds that generally speaking he cannot keep his limits. He spends hours at his computer using porn and is constantly searching for new stuff. Peter is married with an 8 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. His wife recently discovered that he has starting using porn again (even though he has used it and hid it from her for the last two years) and there is a lot of tension in his marriage.

God’s Definition

Matthew 5:28  “Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”  Lust is the sin.